Stay Together or Break Up?
(Real Break Up Story)

Hey Coach,

I want to let you know your channel deserves more views. I haven’t broken up with my ex yet, but I really want to and I’m wondering if I’m doing the right thing. We’ve been together for over five years and have two kids together.

She’s really changed since the birth of our second child. She’s been cold to me and standoffish—almost disgusted by me. It’s beyond falling out of love; it’s as if she’s become a different person. She’s always irritated with the kids, yelling all the time.

I asked if she wanted to get counseling; she said no. Now I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’ve exhausted all efforts to be a good partner. I can’t see myself taking much more. We aren’t married, but it feels like we are.

The house we live in is her grandmother’s, and she has a small inheritance that will probably run out in the next three to five years. I make decent money, but I’m not sure how to go about this because I don’t think she’s mentally fit as a mother. With my current job, I’m not sure I can take on the kids full-time.

My mother said she’d help and agrees I should break up with her. I just don’t know how to go about it. I’m scared to bring it up, and she knows it’s coming—she’s even said things like, “I know you’re going to leave one day; that’s what men do in my life.” I can’t stand to hear that.

I’m lost right now. What’s your take, Coach?